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The Joy of Gay Sex

The Joy of Gay Sex

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  • Create Date：2022-01-25 09:53:24
  • Update Date：2025-09-06
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  • Author：Charles Silverstein
  • ISBN：0060012749
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Summary

For a new century and a new generation of readers comes a fully revised and expanded edition of a classic guide to gay sex， love， and life。 Featuring 50 new illustrations。


One of the touchstones of the emerging gay consciousness when it was first published in the 70’s， and a standard reference for gay men throughout the 80’s and 90’s， The Joy of Gay Sex has informed countless men about the ins and outs of gay life， love， and pleasure。 A full decade has now passed since the last update， and while the gay community has seen improved treatments for AIDS， more positive media coverage， new forums for the expression of community， and more favorable laws， there continues to be an urgent need for this book’s brand of positive and responsible advice。

Invaluable not only as a sex guide but as a resource on building self-esteem， and a coming out guide for young gay men， The Joy of Gay Sex addresses the many emotional and relationship-oriented issues in gay life， from long-term couples and one-night stands， to loneliness and growing older。 It also serves as a general reference on a number of diverse topics， including living wills and insurance。

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Reviews

Reader ，

I highly recommend this book if you are a woman dating a bisexual guy。 ❤️

Dara ，

Mostly very helpful yet， despite having been updated， some of the opinions of the authors seem a bit old-fashioned or conservative and some of the entries could be way more detailed。

Jim Smegma ，

I was surprised by this book。 I thought this would be about a happy sex life， but it turns out to be about guys who like to pound ea n others asses

Paul P ，

Captures the mystique of gay （male） sexual expression。 Affirming and energizing。

Noah King ，

Another Jacob recommendation， did not finish。 But if it’s your thing， that’s totally cool！

Wyatt 9toes ，

Meh I have some issues with this book。 The authors discourage sex clubs because they are unsafe and stereotype S/M men as all leather clad bald men but then say sex with animals is ok。 No。

Gerald Sessions ，

A book with lots of information。 A few illustrations but they are not the focus the information is。

Mediaman ，

This preachy guide doesn't have much joy in it。 It's a dull encyclopedia-like term-by-term description about things gay men do。 Some explanations are way too short， lacking examples， while other are politically propagandizing。 Some inclusions are odd （etiquette， insurance， mirror） while something as basic as cuddling isn't included。 Worst is the constant reminder to not have bareback sex。 The authors basically command you to not ever trust sex with anyone and it should always involve a condom （e This preachy guide doesn't have much joy in it。 It's a dull encyclopedia-like term-by-term description about things gay men do。 Some explanations are way too short， lacking examples， while other are politically propagandizing。 Some inclusions are odd （etiquette， insurance， mirror） while something as basic as cuddling isn't included。 Worst is the constant reminder to not have bareback sex。 The authors basically command you to not ever trust sex with anyone and it should always involve a condom （even blowjobs， which they know most men won't use condoms for）。 This attempt at enforced morality is ironic since the book starts with a rant on censorship regarding their attempt to get the book published then they spend the rest of the book pushing their own political agenda in an attempt to ban bareback sex。 The writers are also very biased in their liberal perspective， failing to understand that gay sex occurs in men from all political and religious backgrounds。If you know anything about gay sex this whole book will be dull and repetitive。 If you know absolutely nothing and are a beginner a few term reviews may provide some insight， but the book is so outdated that it may actually hurt more than help。 This isn't the revolutionary text the authors try to claim it is and doesn't even deliver on the book's title。 。。。more

Pixel Queer ，

I really enjoyed this dictionary for Gay men。 As a Genderqueer person， born female， I liked learning new things and terms that circulate in the Gay community， that I had never heard before。 I also really love the art work， very detailed and just amazing。 I recommend this book for everyone to learn more about not only the gay community but the lgbt community as a whole。

Kay ，

Very informative book and not just for gay men。 😊

Johan Botha ，

Informative， if somewhat outdated。 Mostly focussed on the US gay scene。

Peng He ，

Very good in explaining psychological mechanisms， although still very subjective。The authors are very knowledgable。 This books is useful in self-reflection。

Aenea Jones ，

As a straight female， I found this book about male gay life， sex and relationships very informative。 It has a positive attitude towards a healthy sexuality， stresses the dangers of unsafe sex and also focuses on a lot of emotional aspects of male/male relationships， the positive and rewarding， but also negative and abusive cases。I recommend it not only to gay men， but to everyone who is openminded enough to want to learn about other lifestyles， whether they will ever affect them or not。

albin james ，

This book is very insightful and provides a highly level headed treatment of this interesting subject。 It's very sex positive even by today's standards :） I really liked the emphasis on evidence based statements。 The majority of these are valid and useful today just as in 1977; it was sometimes disheartening to read about the disparity in living standards and affluence in the Western world as compared to the rest of the planet even back then。 Additionally it has several very erotique and porno-g This book is very insightful and provides a highly level headed treatment of this interesting subject。 It's very sex positive even by today's standards :） I really liked the emphasis on evidence based statements。 The majority of these are valid and useful today just as in 1977; it was sometimes disheartening to read about the disparity in living standards and affluence in the Western world as compared to the rest of the planet even back then。 Additionally it has several very erotique and porno-graphique drawings featuring conventionally attractive Caucasian men we are conditioned to like， and the not so attractive types paired together。 。。。more

James Buchanan ，

sexy and arousing

Matthew ，

This is a great terminology and facial book， also there are pictures ;） lmao。

Montana-IFC ，

Public library challenged-Retained （1993） Public library challenged--retained （2008）

BethK ，

This book gave excellent， detailed instructions on giving oral sex to a man。"If you want to please a man， learn from one" This book gave excellent， detailed instructions on giving oral sex to a man。"If you want to please a man， learn from one" 。。。more

Garret Nordstrom ，

THE MUST have book if you are Gay！！！ ESSENTIAL reading！！！！！！！

Danny Tyran ，

How happy I am to have finished reading this book！List of this book's topics:Anus 1， Barebacking 1， Bars 3， Baths 4， Bears 5， Bisexuality 8， Blow Job 10， Body Decoration 12， Body Fluids and Disease 14， Body Image 15， Bondage and Discipline 17， Booze and Highs 19， Bottom 22， Bottoms Up 24， Buns 26， Camping 27， Celibacy 29， Chat Rooms 30， Civil Rights 31， Clubs 34， Cock Size 36， Coming Out 38， Compulsive Sex 42， Condoms 45， Cosmetic （Plastic） Surgery 48， Couples 50， Cruising 55， Daddy/Son Fantasie How happy I am to have finished reading this book！List of this book's topics:Anus 1， Barebacking 1， Bars 3， Baths 4， Bears 5， Bisexuality 8， Blow Job 10， Body Decoration 12， Body Fluids and Disease 14， Body Image 15， Bondage and Discipline 17， Booze and Highs 19， Bottom 22， Bottoms Up 24， Buns 26， Camping 27， Celibacy 29， Chat Rooms 30， Civil Rights 31， Clubs 34， Cock Size 36， Coming Out 38， Compulsive Sex 42， Condoms 45， Cosmetic （Plastic） Surgery 48， Couples 50， Cruising 55， Daddy/Son Fantasies 58， Dangerous Sex 60， Depression 62， Dirty Talk 65， Domestic Partnerships 67， Domestic Violence 68， Drug Abuse 69， Drugs and Sex 75， Early Abuse 77， Effeminacy 78， Etiquette 79， Exhibitionism and Voyeurism 81， Face-to-Face 82， Feet 85， Fetish 86， Fidelity and Monogamy 88， Finding a Physician 90， First Time 91， Fisting 95， Foreskin 98， Friendship 100， Frottage 101， Fuck Buddies 103， Gay Families 105， Gay Liberation 107， Gay Politics 111， Growing Older 113， Guilt 117， Gyms 118， Hair 120， Hands 121， HIV Disease 122， Homophobia 130， Hustlers 132， Impotence 134， Insurance 137， Jealousy， Envy， and Possessiveness 140， J。O。 Buddies 142， J。O。 Clubs 142， J。O。 Machines 144， Kinky Sex 145， Kissing 147， Letting Go 149， Licking 151， Living Wills 152， Loneliness 153， Lubricants 154， Male Sexual Response 155， Married Men 160， Massage 163， Masturbation and Fantasy 166， Mirrors 170， Mixed HIV Couples 171， Mutual Masturbation 174， Mythic Beginnings 176， Nibbling and Biting 178， Nipples 180， Noisemaking 181， On-line Cruising 182， Open Relationships 185， Out on the Job 186， Parents 190， Phone Sex 193， Pleasure Trap 197， Pornography 198， Problems of Ejaculation 199， Profiles 202， Promiscuity 204， Racism 205， Rape 206， Rear Entry 208， Rejection 210， Relaxation 211， Rimming and Felching 212， Role Playing 214， Sadomasochism 215， Safe Sex 218， Saying No 223， Scat 223， Seduction 224， Sex Ads 225， Sex Clubs 227， Sex Parties 228， Sex Phobia （or Puritanism） 233， Sex Toys 235， Sexual Harassment 238， Sexually Transmitted Diseases 242， Sex with Animals 250， Sex with Straight Men 252， Shaving 253， Side by Side 256， Sit on My Face 256， Sitting on It 260， Sixty-Nining 264， Sleazy Sex 265， Spanking 266， Spirituality 268， Suicide 269， Tearooms and Back Rooms 271， Teenagers 273， Tenderness 278， Three-Ways 279， Top 282， Touching and Holding 284， Trade 287， Transgender 288， Travel 292， Tricking 294， Types 296， Uniforms 297， Vanilla Sex 300， Versatility 301， Water Sports 302， Webcams 304， Web Site 306， Wills 307， Wrestling 310。---------------It's not that it's a bad book， but the authors should be sued for misrepresentation （just a joke） so this book's title is far from its actual content。If you read the list of topics above， you will see that at least half of them concerns more problems related to being gay than the joy of it。 And for the rest， everything， I mean everything is stained by difficulties of all kinds that homosexuality can bring in your life。 So， in summary， at least two-thirds of the book are about the difficulties of homosexuality from the moment you come out of the closet until you die of old age or illness。Whenever the authors really talk about "the joys of gay sex，" they remind us of the risks we face to be what we are and to do what we want or like。Do you know that we share about 80，000，000 bacteria and/or viruses each time we French kiss？ We can catch STDs even by giving a blow job or by rubbing against our lovers if they are not absolutely healthy。 Sickening！ Listening to the recommendations of this book， we'd be better to have sex this way:No， he's not entirely safe; his arms are outside the condom。And this:Not a good idea either。 To get drunk or drugged before going home with a stranger can lead to barebacking and disease。So it was a real challenge to finish reading this book。However， I learned some interesting things， like the beginning of the gay revolution against "normal" people's prejudices and injustice of the laws。 But I think reading this book would be good for young adults about to come out who has everything to learn。 It could help to prevent them from unnecessary risks and allow them to still discover the joy of gay sex。By the way， there is a lot of nice drawings in it。 Here is one of the less hot （because I couldn't put here pictures showing genitals）:So I give four stars to this book。See other reviews here: http://heartsonfirereviews。com/？tag=D。。。 。。。more

Eve ，

Hmm。。。。just bought this for my kindle as it's 99 cents on Amazon right now。。 Hmm。。。。just bought this for my kindle as it's 99 cents on Amazon right now。。 。。。more

Anna Bueller ，

It would've been better if it was written by Chaim Potok It would've been better if it was written by Chaim Potok 。。。more

Elaine White ，

I got this as a handy reference guide for my MM romances。 Some things read quite dated， but others are very handy and useful when trying to deal with the emotional and physical aspects of a gay relationship。 Very informative and a wealth of information vital to my character development。

Alon Chen ，

dated

Brett Anspach ，

I read this book shortly after coming out。 A must read for every gay man！！

Keita Ito ，

Every gay man should have this in their collection。。。 Wealth of information from stds， bear code， and much more。

Soulsolfelis ，

It was informative and a good read。

Kyle ，

This would have been useful in eighth or ninth grade。 Not so useful as an adult。

Andrew Wittenmyer ，

Phenomenal！ Everything one needs to know about anything （and everything） related to gay sex。

Apr ，

2 copies

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